What Gets Us Through The Day
Hope. That small little word called hope. We mentioned it in a previous blog entry, but how do you find hope?
Whilst hope lays within us, it can’t always be sourced so simply. Sometimes we have to search around, and deeply routed within our hearts and minds we will eventually find it again, hidden away in the drawer we’ve been so scared to root through for fear of what may lie in there, when in reality it was just a dusty drawer which was cleared out and became bright, standing out from the rest, it moved to the forefront of our mind.
What little things get you through the day? There’s so much that you can do to improve your mood, or just pass time.
Find something worthwhile, don’t just spend your day doing something that passes time, spend something that stops you from thinking about time, think about how much time you have to achieve something, not how much time it’s going to take, or whether you’re going to enjoy it. The best things in life are free, they say. It’s true as well, they are!
Let’s take the beauty of the outside world. The grass, it’s green. I know, amazing right?! The sky can be blue, the sky can be grey and the sky can be black. There’s always a positive we can take from everything. When the rain fell, I would often say “I’m just going out for a run” because the rain was refreshing, and the run and the rain would cleanse my mind of the stale thoughts which ran through so fast throughout the day, especially if I had been having a day which was not particularly productive. The water that was the rain would refresh me, it would remove those negative feelings, and it would give me a new lease of life. Combine this with some music such as chumbawamba’s song tubthumpting or Eye of the tiger and you have yourself a platform to build a better mood, to relax your mind, enjoy yourself and improve your physical and mental health all at the same time.
What else is there? Well there’s things like writing. For instance, song writing if you’re that way inclined and have an interest in it. Or you could try writing a blog about a hobby of yours. I write a blog about football http://www.woosiethinksfootie.blogspot.com because I love it so much, so you could write about a sport, or perhaps just something that interests you. They say the pen is mightier than the sword. Well, I for one totally agree with that! Words have a massive affect on us, one that is so much harder to deal with than a sword.
With a sword, we are able to wear armour, or protect ourselves with a shield, but we can’t do that with thoughts and feelings that stem from words can we? Or can we? Well the answer is yes of course we can! It’s armour for the mind, and it’s a shield for the mind. No-one can make us feel down without our consent, we need to build defences for our minds to shield from harm. Now we all need these sorts of experiences as it is what makes us who we are, and it shapes us, but no-one should suffer pain. So tell yourself that you are a good person, look in the mirror every morning and smile. Say to yourself “i’m going to feel good today, I can do this, I can be happy” The more we tell ourselves we are going to do something, the more positive re-enforcement we give ourselves, the more we believe it and the more we feel it.
The power of social media is well documented. Unfortunately it’s often highlighted for it’s negatives, not it’s positives. This is greatly frustrating but tonight we are proud. We are proud because a topic that started a little over a month ago in my mind has developed into a much larger project. We aim to talk to people, to support people, to let people know that talking about feelings, talking about mental health is not something to be scared of or ashamed of. Tonight we launched the hashtag #TalkOut where we wanted people to talk about their experiences of mental health and their feelings. The response was brilliant, with many people joining in. Some of the responses can be seen here: http://storify.com/Time4Recovery/talk-out-an-individual-and-collective-rise-above-m
Life is full of trials and tribulations but with the support of people like those who joined in tonight, the support of our friends and our families. The support of PEOPLE, and most importantly, the support from ourselves, the self loving rather than the self loathing, we can make it through with few regrets, and with the chance to say: “I’m proud of myself, I did everything I wanted to”. Don’t let mental illness hold you back, don’t let your emotions and your feelings prevent you from achieving what you are capable of, what you are setting out to do and what you will do. You have the potential to be brilliant, better than you think, more important than you know, more beautiful than you ever will see.
Don’t worry about going the extra mile, we need to make much more efficient use of the miles we already go.
For the times where you feel as though nothing you do is good enough then remember that mighty oaks from acorns grow, or that Rome wasn’t built in a day. Progress is often slow, or at least steady and uninspiring but progress is something we only tend to realise once we’ve achieved it, and my word, once we look back, we see how much progress we have actually made, and it’s huge. Once you begin the journey towards self actualization, self discovery, you will never ever go back to stage 1 because you are always learning. You won’t want to either.
“The most beautiful people I’ve known are those who have known trials, known struggles, known loss, and found their way out of the depths.”